2) “Have you ever thought about dating online?”
Give.. me.. a.. break! This is 2013, online dating has been the ultimate place to have relationships for the past decade. Yes, all single women/men have not only thought about it, but have actually DONE it. If you ask most couples, most have met online and from this writer’s experience it has worked out quite well. Many a successful marriage was started online. So if you feel up to the challenge (online dating is just as challenging as meeting randomly in person) start an account on Match.com, eHarmony, christiansingles, Plenty of Fish or How About We and see what happens.
3) “Just play the field!”
The problem with playing the field is that, it’s mostly a man’s game. Most women aren’t real good at having casual relationships or casual sex. Besides, both usually mean that you’re spending time with people you either don’t like much or are having “not-so-great” sex with. What’s so exciting about that?
If you’re a guy, just be up front about your intentions. Don’t say one thing and do something else when you know she wants something more. Besides guys, I think you’d be surprised that if asked a woman to have a sexual relationship, how many would accommodate you with no strings attached. Be upfront, don’t assume she knows what you mean, be simple and just say it.
4) “If I were in a different place in my life, I would want to be with you.”
Yeah, this is the equivalent of saying if I weren’t with you I’d be at home watching a horror movie in my sweats, stuffing my face with Twinkies. Just take it as they aren’t interested and move on…really MOVE ON! Saying this is just plain insulting because no one wants to feel like they are being put on hold.
5) “Is this your boyfriend/girlfriend?”
Does every person you hang out with NEED to be your boyfriend/girlfriend? No. Awkward for the person who’s asking unless you’re hanging out with your hott Dad or Mom is a hot MILF (still super awkward!). Let’s not make an assumption people, single men and women have opposite sex friends. Technically you don’t owe anyone an explanation even if it IS an outing with someone you like. Call it what it is (friendship, etc.) or simply just a couple of people hanging out.
6) “Maybe you should freeze your eggs.”
Maybe. If you are a 45 year old, a single woman who wants to have children, then this maybe a viable option, otherwise, this is a ridiculous notion. To have someone mention this in such a cavalier manner is insulting. Freezing eggs is expensive and should really only be an option if you have physical issues that are or will prevent you from becoming pregnant or you’re getting to that age point where it may become dangerous to you and your child to be pregnant. As always, check with your doctor for suggestions based on your lifestyle and physicality.